20th Anniversary

Our anniversary fell on a Tuesday night, and we planned to celebrate at the weekend since Bryson had baseball practice. When his baseball practice got rained out, we threw something together last-minute and went to Perry's Steakhouse for dinner and then planned on a movie. We didn't buy movie tickets ahead of time, and the movie we wanted to see ended up being sold out, so we watched a movie at home together instead! The Saturday before our anniversary, we did some sealings in the temple. The word that stood out to me from the sealing ordinance this time is the word "receive," and the importance of choosing your spouse every single day. We definitely have had our struggles throughout the years--there are some things that I would love for Matt to work on and change, and I know he feels the same about me! Reading The Let Them Theory helped me put it in perspective. I loved the ABC loop idea:

A - Apologize
B - Back off, observe their behavior
C - Celebrate any progress
Give them 3-6 months without any negative energy. "Let them be."

D- Decide if it's a deal breaker
E- End the complaining or end the relationship

To end your complaining you have to love someone as they are, accept them, let go of expectations, focusing more on the 80% he's doing well instead of the 20% where he falters.

Matt doesn't normally buy me flowers because he knows I'm not a fan of the price tag, but he bought some in honor of a big milestone. The yellow sunflowers are in memory of our first date where he brought me a sunflower (and I thought it was weird). 

One of our favorite things to do together is play pickleball!